An interview with Ms Nishio, parent of a Harrow Appi student
When Ms Nishio began exploring international education options for her child, she wasn’t just looking for academic excellence — she wanted an environment where her son could grow in confidence, independence, and character. Now, three years into their Harrow Appi journey, she reflects on the experience so far, the challenges of letting go, and the transformation she has seen in her son.
Why did your family choose Harrow Appi?
At the time we were considering schools, Harrow Appi was actually the only international full-boarding school in Japan, which made it stand out immediately. But beyond that, I was drawn to the setting. The idea of a school surrounded by mountains and forests really appealed to me. I thought it would be a healthy, peaceful place for a child to grow and focus.
I was also impressed by the school’s approach to digital wellbeing. Even before enrolling, I appreciated that there were clear expectations around screen time, especially in the evenings. Once we joined, I was relieved to see that those boundaries were taken seriously — it gave me confidence in the school’s pastoral care.
What mattered most, though, was the opportunity for my son to become more independent. I’ve always been a very involved parent — maybe too involved at times. Boarding school gave me the structure to step back a little and trust the process. I also thought that some space between us might help when the teenage years inevitably became more challenging. And actually, that turned out to be true. He’s now more mature, calmer — and if I’m honest, I’m the one who’s still learning to let go!
Why did full-boarding feel right for your family?
Full-boarding provided the environment my son needed to develop his independence. It wasn’t just about academics — it was about learning to live alongside others, make decisions, manage his time, and build relationships. And all of that happened with the support of teachers, house staff, and a close-knit community around him.
I knew that if he stayed at home, I would be too quick to jump in and solve things for him. Boarding gave her the space to learn those things for herself — at her own pace.
What advice would you give to other families considering Harrow Appi?
If you’re a parent who likes to stay closely involved, I completely understand how difficult it can be to let go. But what I’ve learned is that by holding on too tightly, we may actually limit our children’s growth. At Harrow Appi, children are seen for who they are. It’s not just about their grades — the school helps students rediscover strengths and interests that might not be recognised in Japanese schools.
My son has rediscovered qualities I hadn’t seen in a long time — abilities that didn’t show in his previous school. Every time he comes home, I notice something new: more maturity, more confidence, more self-awareness.
Letting go is never easy, especially when your child is no longer a small child but not yet an adult. I was very anxious at first. But now, looking back, I can say it’s been a joy to watch both of my children grow step by step into who they are becoming.
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